tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post6399174063491426236..comments2023-09-27T18:41:07.782+10:00Comments on What I'm doing here: One relationship at a time...Misha Simhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12301127607118654367noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-15844975774441188472009-12-29T01:59:54.100+11:002009-12-29T01:59:54.100+11:00Thanks for the comments everybody. Brahm I tried t...Thanks for the comments everybody. Brahm I tried to leave a more personal thanks on Alfred Lives Here but I couldn't find anywhere to do that without commenting on a post. So glad you are engaged to a great guy as opposed to a crap guy! Yay for you Mr..<br /><br />Anon 1, your comments are much appreciated. There is a big difference between want and need - indeed.<br /><br />Anon 2, your words are spot on and I loved the line about society being adolescently fixated with the rush of hormonal gratification!!! well said.Misha Simhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12301127607118654367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-62675544667735360152009-12-27T09:41:57.785+11:002009-12-27T09:41:57.785+11:00Interesting post. I do think that relationships su...Interesting post. I do think that relationships suffer when the partners are not mature. But even when they are, the relationship needs to be nurtured in order for it to work. It's not easy but well worth the effort.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-78209424827446625452009-12-27T09:19:29.457+11:002009-12-27T09:19:29.457+11:00Good thoughts. My time as a single woman have set...Good thoughts. My time as a single woman have set me up to be strong and capable. <br /><br />I cherish the memories of my two previous relationships and am totally in love with my current man but this time its a stronger balanced relationship.<br /><br />Hope you have had a great Christmas break.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-37874361582692781872009-12-27T00:30:24.155+11:002009-12-27T00:30:24.155+11:00Beautifully and masterfully said, Misha. Yes, I ag...Beautifully and masterfully said, Misha. Yes, I agree, I wouldn't be prepared to trade in my status as a single woman easily, either. I treasure time to myself, in this hectic world full of responsibilities and obligations.<br />Some relationships I've had helped me to grow, some just dragged up issues that needed to be healed. But best of all, has been the times in between, where I have sustained being comfortable within myself. Without learning to love oneself - regardless of the fact that I can behave as a dickhead occasionally - one can never have an honest loving relationship with anyone else.<br />Our society seems to be adolescently fixated with the rush of hormonal gratification [aka love at first sight or at the very least great sex] and the eternally happily ever after. Serial monogamy has its pros and cons, but I think that the greatest thing one can do for oneself is to spend time with yourself, lone [not necessarily lonely], getting to know and love yourself, warts and all.<br />Thanks for the reminder.xx<br /><br />I also wrote my own first blog regarding Christmas, but because I couldn't figure out how those damn pages work I wiped out the whole thing before I could post it. I hate that. <br />Anyway, I enjoyed your blog, as usual, my dear. We must catch up sometime soon.xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-54175442934498255152009-12-26T17:56:37.155+11:002009-12-26T17:56:37.155+11:00I love this one more than most of your thoughts, m...I love this one more than most of your thoughts, me to being single is great and it's a good time to do things that YOU need or want to do.<br />It's also nice when you do have someone to share with, but I find the cool thing is that when you WANT to be in the sharing place and it's not a NEED, it takes some work, but we all grow and we all learn everyday, so bring on the lessons and bring on life, yee haa, just have to remember what I've learnt so I can use it :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8795691082298983835.post-32548400730804358462009-12-26T13:04:36.680+11:002009-12-26T13:04:36.680+11:00Interesting - I like this article a lot, I think i...Interesting - I like this article a lot, I think is thoughtful and smart. Like so many of us, I too have had relationships where I learned and grew, and maybe they weren't with the right person, and certainly they didn't last, that being said they got me on the right path with more wisdom each time.<br /><br />Then last year just after my 42nd birthday met the right guy, and totally worth the wait and the stress and the mistakes and everything that came before, good and bad!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11883394577835241921noreply@blogger.com